I do NOT want to run a marathon when I’m 40!!!
Sorry to disappoint you Oprah, Gloria Steinem and so many other fabulous and fierce woman, but I do NOT want to run a marathon when I turn 40. Those of you who are close to or have passed this momentous birthday know precisely to what I jest. (Those of you who are no where near, listen closely because I am about to divulge a little secret. Not ‘THE Secret’ – but it’s a good one, nonetheless). Whether its directly received via the airwaves or slithering slyly under the radar, there IS a pressure that exists. It’s origins are relatively unknown, but it’s power grows, as it feeds on the ticks and tocks of your biological clock, resulting in an insurmountable expectation: By the big 4-0, you should FINALLY be fantastic! You should know (and like!) your true or authentic self. As an added bonus and by-product of this profound knowledge, you now become Superwoman! Armed with your new found enlightenment and slightly larger crows feet, you can now dare to accomplish the impossible! Like… a trip to India with only a toothbrush and some yoga poses. Or, go back to school and get your PHD… in life! Or…YES! A marathon!
Haven’t we had enough pressure over the last 20 years? I feel as though I certainly have. Since graduating at 18, my life has been a whirlwind. I have survived great trials, accomplished some of my goals and dreams (some are still in progress), and above all, I’ve been surprised by a LOT! But NONE of these things have provided me with the skill OR the motivation to now run a marathon!!
So indulge me, if you will, as I present to you the evidence (and encourage you to start collecting your OWN!) that RELIEVES me of the future, impending, marathon!
I, Lalainia Lindbjerg Strelau, present you with the following evidence in order to nullify the expectation, of both myself and my fellow perfectionists, that I must run a marathon on or around my 40th birthday.
I do NOT have to run a marathon at 40 because in the past 20 years (post highschool graduation) I have:
(not necessarily in chronological order)
- Worked full time in the film and television industry.
- Worked also as a professional musical theatre performer.
- Worked also as a Musical Theatre teacher.
- Bought a brand new car in my favourite colour!
- Went to college (for a bit).
- Lived in a few different cities.
- Visited at least 10-15 different countries (I’m too tired to count!) and a few continents.
- Married my highschool sweetheart.
- Moved 3 times in the first 6 months!
- Started my own business.
- Continued to perform professionally while starting my business.
- Started ANOTHER business (yes, at the same time).
- Bought a townhouse.
- CRASHED!!!! (want to read more about my crash? Click here.)
- Quit my business.
- Quit film and television..
- Quit my other business.
- Quit musical theatre performing.
- Got pregnant with my first child, accidentally discovering a new career: Parenting!
- Discovered another new career: Directing
- Gave birth to my first child (9 lbs 10 oz) AND 10 days later started my new career and held auditions for my next project.
- Suffered from Postpartum Depression (treated successfully at 3 months)
- Went BACK to my ‘first love’, musical theatre performing (but this time on a part time basis)
- Joined a ‘Board’ and became ‘Secretary’ (of what, I’m not sure!)
- Got pregnant with my second child and in those 9 months I:
- Wrote, starred and co-directed a one woman show called: the Skinny
- At 3 months pregnant, took a 2 week hiking excursion in Israel with my hubby
- At 7 ½ months pregnant I flew to Mexico and photographed my sisters wedding
- From 5 months to my due date, I directed and choreographed a show
- Gave birth to my second child!!! (This time – weighting in at a WHOPPING 10 lbs!!!)
- Suffered again from Postpartum Depression (successfully treated at 6 weeks this time!)
- Spruced up and sold our townhouse (of 12 years)
- Purchased our FIRST house!
- Co-produced and starred in my first full time professional production since my 20’s (my daughter was just over 2 years old)
- Co-produced and starred in my second full time professional production (my daughter was just over 3 years old)
- From the time my son was born to last year, I directed and choreographed the following shows: Meet Me In St. Louis, Cinderella, Grease, Fiddler on the Roof, A Christmas Carol, Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, The Sound of Music, The Wizard of Oz, Grease (yes, again!).
- Created my first website from scratch. (New career is born, maybe?)
- Created my second website from scratch.
- Created my THIRD website from scratch (someone REALLY ought to be paying me for this now!)
- Under construction – my FOURTH website (not completely from scratch this time!)
Present Day: Caring for two great kids; living (and cuddling) with my amazing husband and best friend (of almost 25 years), and writing Becoming Ordinary – a blog dedicated to ridding myself of ridiculous standards of perfection, in order to embrace my ordinary and loveable (non-marathon running) self.
Becoming Ordinary: Day 82
Letting Go of Perfect, one day at a time.